"Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?
If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?"
Jonathon Rauch
It seems like the world has little room for introversion, with its manic preoccupation with effective communication and marketing. In order to get a job or score with the in-group is increasingly a competition of who can talk the loudest and longest. Not surprisingly these are the ones who make it to the "top" position and seek out others who can be described as the epitome of a "team-player" and be or a "people-person". In other words, they want people just like themselves, where they don't need to look beyong the surface, the blustering, walking billboard person. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator declares them "extroverts"and these folks are mighty proud that they have fallen into this category synonymous with "confidence" and "self-esteem" and "public relations". They make up 60-75% of the population while introverts make up the remainder.
Introverts, on the other hand, are often sidelined, and efforts are made to "mainstream" them, ie. turn them into raving extroverts. They're accused of being shy and unasssuming, selfish, socially awkward and sly. I've had all of those descriptions thrown at me, and more. However, I make no apologies for being the way that I am, and strongly believe that it sheilds me from superficial acquaintances. Veeeeeeeeeeeeery few people know me, and I can count my "friends" on one hand. Okay.. maybe I have one finger free since I elevated my husband to another status.
Sure, I can put on a public bravado with the best of them, and if I miss a day of work, I'm truly missed. The "life of the party", as it were.. they miss my happy, cheerful banter. People look aghast at me and say "Shy?!?!?! NO, not YOU!!!", but little do they know that that's just my front. That just goes to show how the so-called demographics of introverts:extroverts can be just wrong!! I firmly believe that a bunch of professed extroverts are really introverts with their warpaint on, doing what they have to do to survive!
I found quite an interesting article a while ago that I'll post here (so if my computer crashes I can still access it ):-D.
Caring for Your Introvert
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Adopt an Introvert
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Indian Arrival Day - 2007
I'll probably watch part of the annual procession tomorrow morning on TV, and probably some lame, Bollywood movie. That's another thing that I like about my country. I once had a Swiss-woman-resident-in-Denmark express awe that people are allowed to profess their faith so publicly, here. In schools, for example, a child's religious background is taken into consideration, and they can receive religious instruction pertaining to their own doctrine. Public officials (government ministers and Presidents) and court witnesses swear upon Bibles, Qu'rans or Hindu Vedics, and school lunches routinely omit pork (offensive to Muslims and SDA's) and beef (revered by Hindus). Office parties also cater for the vegetarian Hindu or SDA who may be among the midst, and a woman or girl wearing a headscarf is simply a Muslim who has chosen to do so. We do not view non-scarved Muslim females as liberal nor shrouded ones as extremist - it's simply a matter of choice - and we look forward to the "Eid Moon" (the one crescent with the star next to it) along with the Muslim devotees.
PS. I'm of African descent, by the way :-o
Sunday, May 27, 2007
Need For Speed Carbon
Saturday, May 26, 2007
The Unquestionable Questions: Why I Stopped Assembling 2
SDA's are trained to respond to such questions as:
- If God is so good, why did he let my mother/son/daughter/friend/neighbor die? (God moves in mysterious ways)
- Why do bad things happen to good people? (eg. of Job and Abel is given)
- Which day is the sabbath? (all Biblical texts with "Sabbath" in it are drawn out and presented)
- Did God change the sabbath day? (ditto)
- I have a non-believer boyfriend, what do I do? (eg. of Hosea is given, the "be not yolked unequally together with unbelievers" text appears out of thin air)
- Where is God? (all of Bible is presented)
- IS there a God. (ditto + some personal experiences may be given)
Etc, etc.
Such questions need no further effort that a look in one's good ole KJV Bible. However, what happens when one sneaks in questions that have no answer in the Bible, or worse.. how about those questions that have several conflicting answers in the Bible? And this is where things start going awry. Plus, there are so many things that one just doesn't question, because one has heard it for so long, and just simply accepted it as is, or worse, assumed to be 'true' because they came from 'authoritative' sources.
Others keep their questions contained for fear of sounding foolish, unwise, or professing hints of unbelieving (which is just WRONG, because.. regardless of what one should just KEEP believing!) It's quite okay to say, "I don't understand", because then you could be treated to the responder's own interpretations and ideas on the matter.. however, under no circumstances should you say "I do not believe", because then you play with your own salvation, and might go to hell. (SDA's don't really threaten people with "going to hell", but the flip side of the argument is just as strong: "You'll lose out on heaven".)
I spent quite a bit of my life under these suppositions, and any questions were simply squelched for fear of "losing out on heaven" because of the slightest hint of disbelief. However, it is my humble belief, that regardless of how many years I spend meekly accepting, and trusting that your superior experience in spiritual things are trustworthy, should I one day decide to delve a little deeper or past, then some coherent explanation should exist! So, I set out to prove that 100% of the Bible is a logically accurate historical document, and that everything contained in it should be alignable with external history. BIG mistake!
For example, take Exodus 2:10 ...And the child grew, and she brought him unto Pharaoh's daughter, and he became her son. And she called his name Moses: and she said, Because I drew him out of the water.
This is where the great liberator, Moses, is introduced to the world. Moses is accredited with formidable tasks, all the surrounding nations supposedly came to know about the Israelites and their God through him and his feats, and quite a number of them were vanquished by his armies. The logical process would be to backtrack history till some mention of him is found, right? After all, if he was this hotshot in Egypt, SOME record of him would be found SOMEwhere, right? So.. my search began.. and promptly hit a snag. It seems that while I'd always been given to understand that Moses' name came about because "she drew him out of the water", quite a number of Egyptian pharaohs contained "mose" in their names/titles:
- Kamose (1600-1574BC) last ruler of XVII Dynasty, expelled Hyskos
- Ahmose / Amasis I (1574-1550)
- Thutmose I / Tutmoses/ Djehuty-Moses (1530-?)
- Thutmose II (? - 1503)
- Thutmose III (1503-1450) co-regent with Hatshepsut for 21 years
- Thutmose IV (1425 -1417)
So, the immediate question, is "were they all drawn out of the water?" followed by: "if there are soooooooooooo many pharaohs in the Bible, and "pharaoh" simply means "king", how come there are so many nameless pharaohs in the Bible?" Wouldn't it have been simpler (credibility-wise) to have simple named the pharaohs? How do we know which pharaoh had his eyes set on Abraham's wife, trying to steal her? How do we figure out which pharaoh decided to make Joseph CEO? Which one of his daughters did Pharaoh give to Solomon, and which one of the pharaohs?
Clearly, my task seemed insurmountable, because even egyptologists can't seem to agree when to date what, and though Pithom and Raamses are listed as the treasure cities built by the Israelites, the dating of them doesn't match up with the backtiming guide given in 1 Kings 6:1 (480 yrs after Passover in the 4th year of Solomon hints that the Exodus would have taken place in 1455 BC, and Moses would have been born in 1525).
So.. I decided to give the Old Testament a rest! I'm tired, now.. more next sabbath!
Further reading: http://www.biblehistory.com/198.htm
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
The Turtles are Coming!!
This is set to be a record year for nesting leatherback turtles on the coast of northern and eastern Trinidad with as many as 7,000 females expected to come ashore.
On just one beach, Grande Riviere, conservationists counted 388 nesting on one night earlier this month and now expect this to surpass the previously unthinkable total of 500 laying females. " Trinidad Express -May 21st, 2007
Yes folks, we're talking about MY island!!:)
Anyone who's never been turtle-watching has missed a great treat. Admittedly, yours truly falls into the never-been-turtle-watching category in that I've never deliberately set out to lose a night of sleep awaiting the arrival of the odd, arbitrary turtle on a cold, wet and sandfly-ridden beach. However, I do know what the experience is like, since I've slept out on beaches and had leatherback turtles toss their sand against the body of my tent!
A nesting turtle is an awe-inspiring experience. Last year, my in-laws paid something like $30US per person [I'll have to check out the actual figure and re-publish] to have some shitty guide take them to a beach and get soaked in the rain, all for the sake of one or two turtles. It was on Turtle Beach, Tobago, and as much as I love my sister island, I bluntly forewarned them that they would be wasting their time. When it comes to turtles, Trinidad is it! I patiently explained to them, that in all my experiences with 'turtle watching', it was the turtles who watched me, not the other way around! I explained to them: "Pitch your tent on any eastern or northern beach in Trinidad, and you'll see turtles all night long, and free too!" In turn, they were like, "We're only here for a week, we can't miss the opportunity!" So.. I went to bed, and left them to it!
So, honestly, I'm sorry that they couldn't have been here, this year. They're missing out on a lot. Even if Trinis pay to see turtles, it's usually something like $10TT per person (about $1.58US). For the price that my in-laws paid in Tobago, they could have probably enjoyed the entire season in Trinidad! Anyways.. enough rambling. I'm going turtle watching, this year!
"This is an amazing year. The biggest nesting season on record. The turtles are big and robust and we are thrilled to see so many on the beaches," said Scott Eckert, a conservation biologist widely recognised for his pioneering research on turtles.
Monday, May 21, 2007
Thou Shalt not DANCE!!
Saturday, May 19, 2007
Forsake not the Assembling of Ourselves Together: Why I Stopped Assembling 1
Hebrews 10:25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
It's the one piece of scripture that SDA's use to motivate themselves to drag their tired bodies out of their beds on Saturday mornings, and valiantly try to remain awake and appear attentive for 3-4 hours each week. It rarely matters whether they understand or agree with what is being said, or argued. There is scriptural guidelines reminding them to get their butts "into church", and so they do. Many comply out of tradition, some out of fear that they'd lose out on heaven at the last moment, some out of duty, and others out of social motivation-to meet their friends.
Yours truly, however, isn't one of them. And it's not that I'm boasting, but in the past three years I've probably been to church a dozen times. Around 2003/2004 I had some burning questions to which I have yet to receive a satisfying answer, and my sporadic appearances in church became more social visits, than spiritual pilgrimages.
I guess a lot of answers that one perceives to have found rely to a large extent on the questions that one has asked. For this reason, I first entered the SDA church at the age of 10, it having answered my question of: what can I do on Saturday mornings when my mother's at work? Someone volunteered to take care of us during the day, take us to and from church, feed us, and life was grand. At the age of 12, I got baptized because I felt that my question of: do you want to see Jesus when he comes, was answered. They also allowed me to get baptized because it was felt that I could adequately (a.k.a correctly) answer all the doctrinal questions that they would have to ask me before allowing me to get baptized on my baptism day.
At the age of 16, the contented feelings were waning, and I began to question myself: why go somewhere to hear folks read from the same place I could read from and better make myself understand the point they were trying to prove? Around 17-18 the question was: how do I rekindle my interest, and make myself go on? By 20 I hinged on to the appeal of group activities, and would attend drama-club meetings (after afternoon church), and bit by bit I was re-mainstreamed. In 3 years I was holding down leadership positions, i suspect mainly, because I could be counted on to ask the right questions, and give the right responses. This went on for a number of years until around 2003 I began to ask a different kind of question, and things haven't been the same, since. It's a very ticklish question when one begins to ask the unquestionable.
Any SDA member in church leadership knows the surefire way to speak according to the law and testimony, and deliver a thus saith the LORD!! It's as simple as
- finding a topic,
- searching for that word in one's Bible concordance,
- finding all the places the word/topic appears,
- finding where it also occurs in the Spirit of Prophecy to ensure the 'argument' is sound, and then delivering it.
I forgot to mention that there's usually a bout of fervent prayer directly before finding the topic, but even without prayer, it is possible to deliver a perfectly scriptural and irrefutable presentation following the formula.
So.. What were my unquestionable questions? And why couldn't I rely on the usual "That isn't salvaric" and "If the Bible doesn't say it, it wasn't meant to be known" and "God moves in mysterious ways" and "God said it, I believe it, and that settles it for me"??
Stay tuned till next sabbath!
P.S.
For the unwise/uninitiated/unknowing, "Spirit of Prophecy" refers to a series of literature written by the SDA prophetess Ellen G. White until her death in 1912. She covered a range of issues: health and diet principles, education, youth behaviour, family, history, and the list goes on.
P.P.S.
Revelation 12:17 states the following: "And the dragon was wroth with the woman, and went to make war with the remnant of her seed, which keep the commandments of God, and have the testimony of Jesus Christ". Revelation 19:10 talks about "thy brethren that have the testimony of Jesus", explaining that "the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy" By the same neat formula just described, Sis. White ensured that her writings would receive an unquestioning readership, because, if (as demonstrated) she was a prophet, benefiting from the "spirit of prophecy", then her fellow believers would be the remnant, who (if they WANTED to remain the chosen 'remnant') would have to believe in her writings. Astutely, she named them, "Spirit of Prophecy".
Friday, May 18, 2007
Soñar en cubano
The story is developed and told from the female point of view, and the men are only present because of some relationship to the women. However, they're largely voiceless, with the largest voices coming from the ghost of the father and the mama's boy, Ivanito. The novel is interesting because it doesn't seek to give a for-or-against stance for neither the Cuban Revolution nor American policy adopted against the island, its leadership nor its political ideologies. Rather, such issues appear vaguely on the periphery.
Some reviews:
Dreaming in Cuban is written in language that is by turns languid and sensual, curt and surprising. Like Louise Erdrich, whose crystalline language is distilled of images new to our American literature but old to this land, Garcia has distilled a new tongue from scraps salvaged through upheaval."--The New York Times Book Review"
Poignant and perceptive...It tells of a family divided politically and geographically by the Cuban revolution...[and] of the generational fissures that open on each side: In Cuba, between a grandmother who is a fervent Castro supporter and a daughter who retreats into an Afro-Cuban santeria cult; in America, between another daughter, militantly anti-Castro, and her own rebellious punk-artist daughter, who mocks her obsession.... The realism is exquisite."--Los Angeles Times
"This book provides a surprisingly seamless web of time and change, generations and a clarity about the double consciousness of the branches of the family wherever they are. Garcia writes wonderful characters, and the more I read it the more I look forward to reading it again....Excellent book."—Professor Tanya Gardner-Scott, Mount Ida College
P.S. Did I mention the silly book was published in 1993? Well.. the English version at any rate. The Spanish version was written and published a year later.
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
The Fastidious Writer
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
In the mood for Danish bread.. BADly
Oh... I also adore the kanelsnegls. English speakers call them Danishes.. but.. sheesh.. Danes can't exactly call ONE of their many pastries a DANISH, can they? Kanelsnegl translates into cinnamon snail, and I dunno if the description is cool or gross, but they sure are YUMMY!
Monday, May 14, 2007
Quiero Escribir!
De todos modos, creo que hubiera sido tanto más fácil escribir la tesis en español que en inglés. ¡Fíjense estudiar español por tantos años (en mi caso 6 porque elegí estudiar de tiempo parcial), sólo por tener que entregar la tarea más importante en inglés! No obstante, voy a intentar otra vez. Voy a acostarme a las diecinueve y despertarme de nuevo a la una y media, y tratar de hacer algo hasta las cinco. ¡No debo fracasar!
OH.. by the way!
Umm.. I speak some Spanish!!
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Just for the Sake of Writing Something
Friday, May 11, 2007
Inaugural Speech
Right.. So.. I've finally bitten the bullet and created my first (and I hope ) last blog. I honestly hate to write, especially about deep, soul-moving issues, and have never been able to keep a REAL journal/diary for an entire week.. so.. who knows what'll happen?
On another note, I ended the first phase of my academic life, today with a really stupid exam on Contemporary Venezuelan Theatre (All Latin literature borders on the absurd, in my opinion), and "all" that's left for me to do is "submit" my dastardly thesis. Not an easy proposition when one suffers from writer's block in 34 C heat!
Anyways.. I believe I've said enough for now (and ah personally wonderin' to mehself why de ARSE ah writin' in Standard English for! Dis is MY bleep bleep bleep blog, and ah could put whatbleepinever ah want, and how de bleep bleep ever ah want!!)
Nevertheless, off I go!